More of Frances' words, typed letter by letter chosen by her eyes on a computer screen in front of her as her last days on earth come close to an end.
A young lady asked if I had any advice to pass on. I gave her some, but after talking to her I have thought more about it. I thought you might like to hear some of it too.
When looking for a partner, find someone with the same religious beliefs as you have. Also you want to find someone who likes many of the same things that you do whether it be playing the same games, watching sports, travel wishes, etc... Make sure that your thoughts about children are similar and think about adoption as a way to build a family in addition to biological children.
Once you have married, be sure to spend time together doing the things you both enjoy. Take an interest in the other things that your spouse enjoys as that may make your bond stronger.
Women, respect your husband. To the best of your ability keep his name clean, honest, trustworthy and respected. When you are out in public, do not argue with him. When you speak about him, speak highly of him. Keep the disagreements, quarrels and frustration to yourself.
When it comes to children, think before speaking. If a child gets hurt, check out the situation to determine what needs to happen. Keep calm and the child will keep calm. Freak out and your child will freak out. Monitor a child's growth as far as the milestones. If your child is lagging behind talk to the pediatrician about it. It may be best to get some professional help for the situation.
Spend time with your children; have fun with them, teach them to enjoy life, teach them manners as well as consequences. Be consistent in your teaching and training and both parents should use the same form of training. If your child is sick they still need discipline.
Be involved in your children's school life. You can be a classroom helper, or check in with their teachers and make sure that your children are doing well in school. Make sure they get any homework completed and help them if necessary but don't do it for them.
As much as possible keep your children with you, especially from birth to kindergarten. If one of you can stay at home or work from home while caring for your children that is great. Find some family, friends or babysitters who you feel good about leaving your children with and spend some time with just your spouse.
Treasure the time you have with family and friends because you never know when tragedy might happen. Live each day searching for little or even big blessings. When someone lets you down give them the benefit of the doubt and don't just assume the worst.
Those are some of my thoughts. I hope that some of them may help some of you.
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